Circle of Positivity

1I have been doing a lot of reading and research on Happiness of late. Happy people are a resource I always recommend to participants of my workshops,  although it just struck me that not everyone might be purposeful about forming such connects. If you intend to be happy, there is an invaluable resource you must be purposeful about tapping into. It is, what I would refer to as a Circle of Positivity. This circle is really an imaginary circle surrounding you, at all times, acting like a shield when you need protection, like a source of strength when you feel weak and like a sponge when you feel overwhelmed with negative emotions of any kind. It is quite remarkable if we think about it this way but unfortunately, not all of us consider creating or rather, curating one for ourselves.

Many of us would have heard about the vibes we get from people, about auras, about negative and positive people, about energy vampires and various such constructs. Simply put, there are people who raise our energy levels and there are those who tend to deplete them. If we pay close attention, any one interaction is often enough for us to gauge the impact that a person might have on us. However, not many of us are purposeful about making time to spend with those people who enthuse us, energize us and fill us with positivity and hope.

Most times, we flow through the day, moving from one interaction to the next, from one task to the other and from one place that leads us to the next and so on. This is essentially, flowing through the day on a default mode. An alternate would be, a design mode, which is governed by an intention. While we do complete tasks and meet the people necessary for the same, we do ensure that we make time to interact with those to help us dip into the source of energy that, perhaps, all of us draw our energy from. It could be the sun, or the supernatural or anything else you might believe in – but there is, certainly, a source.

Surrounding ourselves with people who exude positivity and those who leave us with a sense of possibility and recharge us, is almost a life skill. If you are familiar with Buddhism you might have heard of the ten angels or you might be familiar with any other such similar concept which basically indicates that in times of distress, there are people around you who are there to pull you out of your situation. If you think about it, you already know who these people are in your life, They could be in your family, your friend circle, or even at work. What if we plan to include them in our lives everyday instead of reaching out to them and hoping they would be there when we are really down and out? Imagine how that might infuse us with positivity each day and might, in turn, enable us to be that source for someone else. I hope not having time is not the excuse you might be planning to cite for not being able to do this 🙂 You do know that not having time is the world’s favorite excuse!

So who forms your circle of positivity?


Thoughtful Trust

CoveyTrustQuoteOver time, I have come to realize and come to terms with a deep rooted make or break factor in relationships – good old trust! It is easy to take the higher ground and say we should trust people but I have often found many people, starting their interactions with ‘Prove to me you are trustworthy’ even when they begin talking to a person for the first time.

While the intent is not to get back to being naive and not to do away with one’s discretion, the fact is that very few people succeed in genuinely making others believe that they start with trusting people.

I found a simple way of living and demonstrating trust. Whenever I meet someone new, I first have a small conversation with myself in my mind. I remind myself that ‘this person I am meeting is unique and has his / her own experiences which have made him / her into the person that I am experiencing. Nothing is good or bad about this person. I have no judgements. Just trust. I trust in the universe. I am meeting this person for a reason and this person has something to offer to me as I might have to offer this person in return. I may not know what that is now or ever. What is important is for me to maintain my trust and let things unfold.’

And they do. Surprisingly! But yes, they do.

People who have helped me and who have not, have both intersected my life for a reason. Those who have not helped me or hindered me or pulled me down, have, in fact, helped by not helping.

What a lovely place the world can be if we all choose to start with trust. Do your bit. Choose to trust and watch life’s best come your way!