My 4 year old daughter loves to experiment with water and what it can do. She tends to pick up different objects each day, tries to fill water in them, drowns them in the bucket, see if they come up and float or stay down.
As I was watching her take pride in her discovery, I realized how relationships as I had known them, had the power to sink or float a person.
There are many people each of us have in our lives, who have this sink effect. They would just say something and send you spinning down a spiral. In other words, make your happiness sink. We all have those kind of people around us, right? Sometimes by default and sometimes by chance. I have known such people in my extended family, at work and even in business. Sometimes they know they will make you sink, yet they pretend as though they don’t know any better and sometimes they lack the wisdom to know otherwise. Either way, they make you sink.
And then there are these people who have the ability to make you float. They would be so accepting of you, would just get you and would just know how to elevate your state of happiness. It is fun being around such people and I guess we are all naturally drawn to such people. Again, I have known such people in my extended family, my work and at business. The world, is hence, made of sinkers and floaters. I don’t know a third kind…maybe there are more, but I never paid enough attention (please do share your thoughts) – I love creating theories from experience.
Here is my thumb rule on ‘The Floatation Principle of Life’ (just coined this and if it exists somewhere, please do let me know!) – if ‘sink’ does not turn into ‘float’ sometime soon and you start running out of patience, move the ‘sinkers’ away and if you can’t, move away from them. It is however, important that we don’t dismiss the ‘sinkers’ right away. Some amount of sinking is good, of course. It is a good break from the constant floating and a bit of change always does some good.
Constant sinking, however, is not good. Life is too short to spend it sinking. Get some floaters. Get the sun!
This post is a reproduction of my weekly column written for The Goan (http://thegoan.net).