Let me ask you a question…do you feel complete? If yes, my compliments to you – perhaps you may not then find this a redundant read. If not, then why not? What do you believe will complete you?
Being complete is a matter of choice…or is it not? A woman is incomplete without a man…? A woman is not complete till she becomes a mother..? It is strange how some previously-held beliefs have been fundamentally challenged and even proven irrelevant by women today. In fact, some new beliefs have been added, which have not been stated by any religion or by our grand-parents explicitly. But they do seem to hold good for many. Beliefs that say ‘every woman should work and be financially independent’ or ‘an educated woman can educate an entire family’ and so on and so forth.
While these are good beliefs and are perhaps meant for the betterment of the society, it is ironic that talks of completion and what one ought to do exists only in the context of women. That being said, let us reflect on how-in our lives-we have at some point in time, believed that we were or are incomplete.
We are all created equal, as complete beings. Unless there is a medical reason to it, let us assume that we are perfectly capable of being happy under any circumstance, unless we choose not to be. Let us now, challenge this assumption.
Some of us might be single and might say, how can I be happy if there is no man in my life? Well, think about it. There are many women in this world, who do have men in their lives but are excessively unhappy because of it. So, then, what is the guarantee that a man would change things for good and make you happy?
Some of us might believe that we can be happy only if we experience motherhood. There are so many mothers in the world who are unhappy with their lives as they have had to give up things they loved in order to raise the kids. Others are coping with the ill-health of their children and find it tough to get through each day.
Eventually, we are all able to get out of our situations but for that time, we yearn for something else, believing that something needs to happen to make our lives complete and to be happy.
Do you feel incomplete because you do not have a job or earn enough money? Women who work and try and manage everything else would love to be in your shoes and to have the opportunity to get some time for themselves, perhaps join a hobby class or start a fitness regime.
Feeling complete is really a matter of choice. If each of us believes that we are complete, we would be happy and fulfilled and would not wait to experience happiness. You are complete. Now.
This post is a reproduction of my weekly column written for The Goan (http://thegoan.net).