Forward. Rewind. Replay.

122/365 || ResetAs I was sharing my life story with a fabulous story coach of international repute today, who is creating a pool of inspiring life stories across the globe, I discovered a pattern about the way I have been making decisions in life.

Making a decision, almost always, is about weighing the options one has and then thinking about the pros and cons before weighing in on one of the options. I use ‘almost always’ because there are times when accepting what comes our way and making peace with it, is sometimes, the only good choice to make when not many options are available to us, other than denial, of course.

So let’s say, something happens, which you were not expecting to happen. You now need to deal with it and make a decision. How do you decide? Try this. Take each option and fast forward your life post making that decision. e.g. If I take up this job now, then this might happen..and then that might happen…then…and you arrive at a certain set of things that might or might not seem appealing. The further you are able to fast forward, the better you might be able to choose. Hold these thoughts and start focusing on the option which seems the most appealing to you. Make that a ‘wannabe’ goal for yourself. Now move into a rewind mode..get back to where you are today. An then start playing your life afresh. So, if that is what I might end up with, then this is what I need to do now – to get to it. It works. This is really nothing but using your intuition for making decisions. The decisions you might end up making as a result of this would be better accepted by you and hence by people around you and are likely to leave you a much happier person.

The key is to stay focused on what would work for us in the future and the vision that we find compelling. That way, we would find our vision pulling us towards it and our chances of realizing it would be much higher.

We could, however, also use the converse of this technique to one’s benefit if our intent is to focus on something we have been neglecting for a long time, like health, for instance. Say, you want to lose weight but find that you are not able to exercise or follow a diet. In this kind of a situation, when we already have a pre-determined goal, if we focus on the things that can go wrong, we might be propelled towards action. So let’s say you have been advised to lower your cholesterol levels and you want to reduce your cholesterol by changing your eating habits. What could possibly happen if you don’t do something about it? And then..? And then..? And…is that what you really want? If not, then what should you do about it..now?

Every time you catch yourself slipping back into your comfort zone thinking you might want to take action some other time, fast forward to the worst possible outcome. Make that your driving force. You will do something about it because you don’t want to end up like that.

Have you tried this sometime? Would love to hear what your experience has been 🙂

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2 thoughts on “Forward. Rewind. Replay.

  1. Hi, Just came across your blog, and found it interesting. I follow a different style of decision making. Decision making as mentioned in your post involves thinking ahead, based on the thoughts generated by your mind. This involves speculation. Speculating involves making guesses, however carefully we make it. This also involves anticipating a fixed set of things whereas there may be many other things that may come up later which cannot be anticipated ahead.

    I have tried this many times before, but often, I end up dissappointed as life changes very much every day. Then, I came across an insight that thought itself is a mischief maker. Thought makes us move away from a situation. For example, lets say, that I need to take a decision on whether to make a purchase or not. Rather than allowing thought to carry on with its speculation, I allow the thoughts to be, and understand the situation without thinking about it. I give some time to be with it, and see the whole situation as it is. The clarity that emerges is invaluable.

    When thought is deciding on doing something, there is an anxiety as well as worry on whether it is the right thing to do. But, allowing myself to be at peace with the situation and look at it as it is, helps in acting without confusion, or as little confusion as possible. This means to be aware without actively thinking out the solution. Thought will definitely appear, but being aware helps in understanding the thought and not being carried away by it.

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